For New Caregivers
By: Gail R Mitchell
May 25, 2000
If you are new to the caregiving situation,
the Internet can become an incredible
resource for research, support,
meeting other caregivers in similar
situations. In truth, just about anything
you can imagine can be found on the
Millions of caregivers who are living with
their loved ones have become isolated,
especially when they are not living
in or near a big city. Their friends
and family usually do not understand
what caregiving is about if they
have not experienced it themselves,
so they tend to back off from socializing
with the caregiver.
For caregivers, the Internet has become a
lifeline to others who understand what you
are going (or about to go) through.
If you come from a well-connected family,
you may find incredible love and support,
however, most caregivers come from
dysfunctional families in some way
and they are able to create new
extended family through their
interactions online. For many there
is a great deal of hardship caused
by other siblings and relatives
who may want to direct or control
you, but will not help out.
Thus, what lies before you amongst
thousands of web sites is hope,
information and a wealth of
opportunities to learn about
diseases and illnesses, medications,
insurance, legal information, new
medical breakthroughs, inventive
medical techniques and procedures
and much more.
Online, you will meet all different types of
family caregivers as well as professionals.
While the type of roles may differ for
example some are caring for a loved one
24/7 - twenty-four hrs a day, seven days
a week; some visit their loved ones in a
facility or in their home; many have taken
their loved ones in, and many are
long distance caregivers. Diseases,
situations and experiences all vary
for each and everyone of you,
however, there are many issues that
all caregivers share and
through the process of sharing, you can
bond with many others who can understand
what you are going through. Through
haring so many caregivers begin to forgive,
grow and heal.
Important things to become aware of in your
new role as a caregiver:
· Assessing your loved ones need for you
as their primary caregiver for example
health warning signs, ability for loved
one to care for themselves,
depression, can they function on their own
in society, are they responsible, how is their
overall attitude, and also their cognitive
· Emotions: frustration, fatigue/ stress,
resentment/anger, sadness/grief, guilt,
isolation and satisfaction both for
yourself and your carerecipient.
· Establish a network of professional care
· Developing support plans so that you can
share the care where it is possible.
· Assessing whether your loved one can
remain at home either in their own home
or with you or if they need to be in a facility
or in an alternative living situation.
· Learn about housing options.
· Learn good communication skills
· Learn as much as you can about insurance,
financial, and legal information. Create
checklists that you will find in your
research both on and offline, in
your readings etc.
· Learn how to organize information in all the
different areas you will be researching and
allow yourself sufficient time to do the
· Setting goals for yourself as well as with
your loved one.
· Learn how to make informed decisions for
your loved one as well as yourself.
· Learn to set boundaries by making a list
of the tasks you can do and those you are
not capable of doing or just do
not want to be responsible for.
· Learn how to avoid caregiver burnout.
· Learn how to remain balanced from within
and have your needs met first so that you
will be able to provide quality care for
your loved one.
· Maintain your self worth, your self-respect,
and your peace of mind.
Resources here at the Boomers International
Site may be accessed by scrolling your
cursor over the golden age section of the
navigator bar above each page. Check
under caring for parents, retirement,
AARP Association, Health, and caregivers.
Under caregiving, you will always find our most
recent editorial, the archives, and more
caregiver links. If you scroll over advice, you
will find information on Medicare and Social
Security. Under the Spirituality link, you will
find information on online counseling, help
line, and psychology to assist you.
At our affiliate site, Empowering Caregivers,
you will also find a wealth of resources. By
clicking any link to the Empowering Caregivers
site, you will find informative caregiving
articles, inspiration, the caregiver of the
month spotlight, the caregiving site
of the month spotlight, journal
exercises to help you process issues
that you will face as a caregiver, a free
online newsletter which you may subscribe
to, a healing circle, Forums/Message boards
where you can communicate with other
caregivers, a chat room with scheduled chats,
suggested readings, a wealth of online and
offline resources and much more.
Please feel free to email me at
at any time with your questions
I look forward to hearing from you.
Richest blessings on your journey.
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Stress Of Caregiving Affects
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Stress And Burnout
Negative Or Positive Choicest
Long Distance Caregiver
How To Set Up A Support System
Caregiving for Parent or Elderly Person
Baby Boomers Fear Talking
To Parents About Death
Boomers' Main Page
Boomers' Caregiver's Archives
Gail's Web Site :
Welcome to Boomers International.