Make a conscious decision to
take care of your own personal needs and your
health first while you are caring for another person.
The most important phrase to remember at this time
is After me, you come first. If you are not strong from
within, healthy and balanced physically emotionally,
mentally and spiritually then how can you be there fully
present to care for another?
Make a conscious decision
at the onset of the caregiving process to involve the
one you caregive in making choices, decisions, etc.,
encouraging them to take active participation in the
healing, treatment or process until their transition
from this plane.
I cannot express the
importance of supporting the one you care for to
take an active part in maintaining the quality of
their life even if they are terminal. Provided they
are of sound mind and have their faculties, a
caregiver should support their loved one to fully
participate in all the decisions regarding the
process they are experiencing with empowerment,
strength, responsibility and much more.......
Encouraging the cared one to remain independent
and in charge of the life is so very important in times
like this. Where ever possible, the caregiver
should try to work with the requests of their loved
one in all situations, acting as a support to follow
through on their decisions.
Caregivers must seek out
techniques which relax themselves during their
undertaking as caregiver. This means eating well,
getting fresh air, learning deep breathing techniques,
perhaps yoga or tai chi, exercising, walking, napping
and a variety of other ways. The most important issue
is to reach some deep inner peace from within
When caring for someone who
is terminal and undergoing a slow deterioration process
that we watch daily as caregivers, the process can be
devastating. It is important to look at areas in our own
personal lives where we are perhaps dying a little
every day because we are not living our own lives
to the fullest. We put off things until tomorrow.
Now is the only moment we have. As caregivers
we begin to see how short and truly precious life is.
Make sure you maintain your own personal life
while caring for another. You must make time for
yourselves. Bring in other family members, friends
or volunteers from organizations to assist you
Find support groups on and
off-line for your loved one and yourself. Sharing with
others in similar processes helps you to keep a
proper perspective on the process. Reach out and
get the support you need. No one can undergo this
alone. We all need support!
Never diminish your accomplishments- large or small.
When you give with clear intent and focus from your
heart, wonderful healings manifest. Be in gratitude for
the mini miracles takiing place. They are all a part
of a bigger picture that we may not be able to
comprehend at the time.
See if you can write down all
the mixed feelings you go through. The highs, the lows,
the old patterns, the feelings of inadequacy, the
frustrations, etc. Writing, allows you to clear yourself
to move on without carrying all the clutter or baggage
with you. It frees you up to be fully present in the
Learn to be able to laugh
at yourself, the situations you are in with your loved
one and life. Humor is such an important healing
ingredient especially when you are feeling helpless
Be aware of the lessons
that you are learning from the process itself, from
your loved one that you are caring for and from
others who come into your life.
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