Marriage Rituals

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Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message  By Anonymous on Sunday, July 25, 2004 - 05:34 pm:

Give me some examples and thoughts on different marriage rituals.

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message  By Anonymous on Monday, July 26, 2004 - 01:45 am:

Hindu Wedding Traditions

The institution of marriage is traced back to Vedic times. The ceremony is held on a day in the "bright half" of the northern course of the sun.
Months before the wedding an engagement ceremony known as Mangni is held. This is to bless the couple, who are then given gifts of jewelry and clothing by their new family.

There are various types of Indian ceremonies which comprise the marriage process.

Ritual Baths and Attire

A ritual bath of turmeric, oil and water is applied to both the bride and groom's hair by married women. Both parties wear new clothes.
The ritual of wearing conch shell bangles takes place at the bride's house. These bangles are dipped in turmeric water.

Mariam Aziz, one of our readers, tells us that a Pakistani Bride wears red on the day of her wedding because red symbolizes happiness. Another reason why red is worn is because it is bright. No one else wears red that day except the Bride.

Highly exotic, intricate patterns decorating the bride's hands and feet with henna is called mehandi. It is believed that the deeper the color the stronger is her love for her husband.

The bridal dress is a sari and the bride dons all the ornaments. Her hair is usually in a bun and covered with a crown and veil. Sandalwood is artistically applied on her face in the design of the crown.

Very fancy and pretty with long ceremonies and rituals.

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message  By Anonymous on Monday, July 26, 2004 - 09:39 am:

Give me some more information somebody.

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message  By Anonymous on Monday, July 26, 2004 - 12:15 pm:

Japanese Wedding (_O)

A Shinto wedding is a ritual that takes place in a Shrine because purity is important to them, most important events are celebrated in the Shrine. Only family members are allowed to attend the wedding.
Shinto means the way of the Kami ("the way of the gods").

Usually, the bride's traditional wedding dress is a white silk kimono (Shiromuku), she wears it with weil as well as with obi sash(long over garment). She also wear the tabi socks and sandles. The groom wears a haori jacket and a hakama at the bottom in black. (black kimono)

A Japanese bride can change up to five times into different kimonos. The bride wears a wig as part of the tradition of the kimono wedding dress.
The wig is traditinal Japanese style with bouffant, decorated with artificial flowers, gold combs and pearls.

The Bride and groom enter from different doors... drum and flute music are played. The nakodo waves a sacred tree over the head of the couple to keep away evil spirits and symbolize purification. The tree is made of paper streamers. After the vows the couple drinks a wine called sake, exchanging their cups nine times to symbolize their bonding.

At the reception the bride and groom sit at an elevated table and are applauded by the guests. This is when the wedding march is played. The dinner for the reception is very expensive so the guests bring new money for gift givings in a special envelope to help pay for the wedding. The master of ceremonies discusses the background of the couple and wishes them well. Friends and family members give speeches. The wedding cake is cut with the brides hand resting on the grooms hand to signify their first act together as husband and wife. A toast is given to the couple then the bride changes into a traditional western white wedding gown. The groom also changes into western clothing. The couple stand under a paper umbrella over their heads which signifies they are lovers.

The newlyweds face the guests and light a single high candle on the center table which is symbolic for their unity in marriage. At the end of the evening the couple gives the mothers a bouquet of flowers and the fathers a carnation for the lape, as a thank you gesture. The groom's father gives thanks to all who attended and then the couple leaves on thier honeymoon.

There are two main kinds of marriage in Japan - arranged marriages and love marriages. In the typical Japanese custom of arranged marriages, a person of social status mediates between a man and woman who have reached the "appropriate" age to marry. Initially, pictures, personal histories, and family background details are exchanged. If both sides are agreeable, the go-between arranges a meeting and introduces the man and woman to each other over a meal.
The custom of arranging marriages began with a parental desire to preserve family lineage and social standing. Some parents are still keen on arranging a marriage for their children, but today, young men and women are free to reject the idea before or after meeting. Arranged marriages declined in number as democracy flourished after World War II, but the efforts of a go-between are being viewed more positively these days as a way of bringing together people who might make good partners.
The yuino ceremony makes the engagement official. Both families meet over food and drink, to exchange gifts and celebrate the upcoming union. Although customs differ by region, it is common for the groom-to-be's family to give money and good luck tokens, such as edible kombu seaweed (symbolizing the prosperity of future generations), and abalone (representing the desire for long life). The future bride's family then responds by giving something worth about half the value of her gifts. This exchange signals the couple's intention to marry, and the families' agreement with their choice of partner. This ritual is being increasingly ignored recently, being replaced by the man giving his future bride an engagement ring, and her giving him presents in return.

Ariza Accents/The Nuptial Knot
By: Kitty Ariza

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